Often times the way a black woman wears her hair depicts the image of how others perceive her. They see a woman whose hair looks like it could be considered a head of grass. They never take time to feel the texture or imagine that it is the way she wants to wear it. Inside of this same woman is a human who works hard to hold together a family, works a full-time job and manages her own lifestyle.
African American women carry the weight of the world on their shoulders!
- She fears there won’t be enough money left after the bills to have some leisure activities.
- She squeezes every ounce of multitasking into planning a daily menu.
- She washes 12 loads of laundry after an eight hour shift.
- She still has to give her mate the attention he desires or demands.
Wrestling with possibly five hours of sleep when eight is required only pulls the strength away from her already beat down to the ground, heart. After all the frustrations of an average day, she still pushes herself above and beyond the means of a superwoman.
Who sees this? Who appreciates her? Who gives her a night off to rest? Who cooks the dinner when she can barely stand?
This woman is a typical woman who makes just above the minimum wage and her husband might make a few dollars more. This is not a fabricated story of any black woman, this is a true reflection of millions of African American women, whether they’re educated or not.
The same issues that stress the black woman is not an issue for other races of women.
If her hair is nappy, then her brain is alive and active. She tries to keep her cool when her children want better things in life. Often, the sacrifice is made on her part to make sure they have some of the pleasurable things in life. Should she complain?
Instead, she says, “A woman’s gotta do what a woman’s gotta do.”
This perceptive is only the black woman’s as she does without the $65.00 perm to make her hair feel soft and silky so her man can run his hands through it. However, she uses her natural hair by washing it, conditioning it and oiling it to find the style that still makes her feel beautiful on the inside.
It took years for the black woman to find the courage to say, this is me. I was born with this grade of hair. So, why do I have to pay to make my hair look like I am a white woman. So, the proud black woman announced to the universe that I am keeping it real.
Girlfriends, I am not covering up my head with a wig. I am not wearing a head piece. But, what I am going to do is wear my hair natural and straight nappy. “Nappy is a natural process which requires an attitude to proudly present yourself.” Each time you see a black woman wearing her hair nappy, smile and say she’s all there.
Judging a person by the way they wear their hair is a waste of time. It’s a total injustice to the individual whose brain is not in her hair but inside her skull. This woman is happy to allow what she stands for to be seen by those who only see the outside.
Written By: Idella Johnson
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